Perhaps we should ask people here a question: please name one conservative who is not an asshole? It may not really clarify anything but I'd be interested in the answer.
This will be hard for me because I focus on trends rather than individuals. There are relatively few politicians about whom I have strong opinions; and many of those attracted my attention BECAUSE they seem like assholes! But here goes:
There were many moderate Republicans in the 20th century, and two female incumbent Senators who seem OK. But they probably don't qualify: They are considered NOT assholes because they are NOT right-wingers!
John McCain seemed like a GOOD person. Perhaps he wasn't as SMART as we'd hope for in a President, but he impressed me and many others as a good-spirited man. Both he and Mitt Romney, when running against Barack Obama, scolded their audiences for assholish behavior against Obama. (I'd better not put Romney forward as an example. Even if his politics were not assholish, there'd be plenty of other ways to criticize him.)
Many of those who detest abortion do so out of strong religious convictions. However WRONG or STUPID they may be, that doesn't make them "assholes." Hasn't abortion been considered criminal in most past societies? IIRC didn't one ancient society (Rome?) where abortion was legal also permit infanticide up to an age of majority?!?
John Kasich is a conservative who is not an asshole. He joined Ralph Nader in an effort to overturn corporate tax loopholes. Over time he changed his mind on several issues where he once took the right-wing position. Is
Liz Cheney an asshole?
By default I view most right-wingers as assholes, but this is partly due to my own prejudice. Thinking of "conservatives" I've met in real life or interacted with on message-boards, many seem to be assholes, but many are just deluded ignoramuses rather than "assholes."
What do other Infidels think?