Underseer
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Because sexual assault is not just about having sex. It is about denying the option of consent to their victim... taking what they want without permission.I'm not saying that no women could resist his advances. What I'm saying is that loads of sexy women would be trying damn hard to get to have sex with him. If all he wants is to have sex with a sexy woman, why waste his time on a woman he wasn't sure about?
It is a type of theft... and even the wealthiest people can be kleptomaniacs.
And, imo, it's also at least sometimes about not having to consider for even a millisecond what the other person wants, needs or feels. Or that they feel. Sure, there are sadistic bastards who get off on invoking terror and pain, but I think plenty of date rapey guys just don't give a rat's ass about the other person. At all. Which, I think is also the appeal of those who visit prostitutes, at least for some.
I really think the date rape guys are dealing with confusion about what is actually going on. Much of our society promotes that disgusting "She says no, but means yes" idea.