DrZoidberg
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He didn't get "crucified". He CONFIRMED the 5 allegations against him, and he apologized.Again I'll use the example of Louis CK. The fact that he got crucified for that is crazy. That's what I mean with out of control.
I wasn't talking about his possible guilt. I agree that he did it. I also agree that some of it is beyond what is cool. Nothing beyond mild shame. Enough to say you're sorry. Which he did. I don't think is that it's such a big deal.
What happened is that they pulled a film that was about to come out. There was a whole bunch of cancelled contracts and engagements. If that isn't crucified, I don't know what is?
I think it's pretty clear that you and me see what is socially acceptable completely different. It's got to be possible and ok to make mistakes without losing your job. Or we'll go back to the sexually repressed nightmarish society of the 50'ies. That society left everybody miserable. We are sexual beings. It's one of our two main functions in life. Sexuality isn't always straight forward and simple. We're also not equally good at reading other people. Sucking at reading other people isn't being a sexual predator.
I see a lot of people nowadays who see themselves as sensible and middle of the road who so fucking much aren't. I think you are one of these.
In Sweden last year a law was passed that stated that you need to get verbal consent before engaging is sexual acts. Loads of "sensible" people thought that was a sensible law. I'm guessing, without once contemplating on their own sex life and how that works. Or probably doesn't work.
Are the various companies he was associated with stepping back for now? Yes, as is their right. And I predict that he will beback in business within a year.
I didn't say it wasn't their right. I'm not talking about the law. I'm talking about what them stepping back tells us about our society. To me #metoo isn't primarily about what is legal. But social norms. What the Louis CK situation shows us is intolerant and sexually repressed social norms.
But nice that you predict that everything will go back to normal within a year. How does that make them, reeling away from him in horror, ok?
Do I find it obnoxious that he has suffered consequences for his behavior while Roy Moore is getting endorsed by the orange turd? Yes. Bigly.
I'm not sure being endorsed by captain Pussy-grabber is a positive. Isn't he a bit like with-friends-like-that-you-don't-need-enemies?
Again... it's a low number of allegations spread out over 50 years! Most of them in the 1970'ies when men were, because of social norms, encouraged to be sexually aggressive. And none of them anywhere near rape or sexual harassment. He allegedly made a couple of failed moves. Also, they're all unverified and unverifiable accusations. He also denies it. I'm not saying he didn't do it. But there's not enough here to do anything. It would be wrong to punish him for it. And it has happened. So it's fucked up.
I will also remind you that reports of his behavior have come out before... and were ignored and promptly squashed. Perhaps if he had dealt with it then, he wouldn't be part of the #MeToo situation now.
Again... we have completely different views on this. I don't think this is something he needs to stop with. What he needs to do is get better at spotting when women are into it. There's only one way to acquire such skills. And that's to keep going for it when he thinks it's welcome. Those women exist. I have met some.
Everything I've read on Louis CK's conduct suggests that he's capable of taking a hint, and when he realized his behaviour was unwelcome he didn't try it again with the same woman. That makes it totally ok in my book.
There isn't any question that he did, in fact, manipulate women in order to satisfy his fetish for public masterbation. And that's the key here, he manipulated the women. He did not have affirmative consent from them. He fully acknowledges this, and there is a pattern over multiple years with multiple women. He has apologized. And now he will get on with his life, hopefully a little wiser and more considerate of the women around him.
How many times have you got affirmative consent from women you've had sex with? I'm guessing zero? That's the normal number. You're in fantasy land. This is not how humans behave nor how normal human sexuality works. You make a small move, that breaks a normative barrier for what is acceptable, without her consent, and see what happens. Then you try to figure out what her (usually) extremely subtle signals she is sending is conveying. Then you make another small move or pull back. That's how sex normally works. It's also how we want sex to work. We all require some degree of tension, sense of danger and mystery when having sex. Or passion dies.
I've been to plenty of BDSM clubs and sex clubs in my life. In these environments we do require affirmative verbal consent before anybody is allowed to do anything. Because of the chaotic nature of the situation, lack of talking, and how extremely emotionally vulnerable people are making themselves. It's advanced level sex, and we need extra precautions. If you ever go to a place like that and try it out, you'll immediately realize how unnatural and weird it feels to get affirmative consent. And also, how unsexy it is. In spite it's unsexiness it's still necessary in that environment. But outside that specialised and ritualised behaviour I engage in normal sexual behaviours. Where we don't ask for consent.
The problem here is that we're putting standards on Louis CK that no human (that anybody actually wants to have sex with) will ever be able to live up to. If we're putting them on Louis CK we're also putting them on ourselves. I see it as very unhealthy and a socially dangerous development.
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