I completely agree with everything you said. It doesn't change my affect my argument.
*Which of you is 'right' is irrelevant ...
One bilby is right, and the other is wrong. That's the non-physical difference.
Think of replacing one spatial dimension with the temporal dimension such as distance over time. On one graph, you would have the original bilby extending from birth. On the other graph, you would have a much shorter interval starting from the moment that the clone was made. So the original bilby is a much larger organism to aliens that can see in 4 dimensions. But to humans that don't have that luxury, we can't tell you apart.
And the difference this makes to either bilby is what?
nothing tangible, nothing physical, nothing noticeable ...
History is what you remember. Whether those memories represent something real in the past is irrelevant.
Yes, that is what interests me so much about all of this. It should be irrelevant, but in this case it's not. One is the "real" bilby, and the other is a clone.
The difference is ONLY apparent to your hypothesised alien who sees in 4 dimensions; and to that alien, the two entities are as physically different as a circle drawn on paper is different from a sphere, to you or I.
When you say "So the original bilby is a much larger organism to aliens that can see in 4 dimensions" you are describing a physical difference between two objects - one is "much larger" than the other.
Your problem is that you are switching points of view without acknowledging it - from our regular day-to-day perspective, there is no physical difference, the claim that the two clones are identical is true, and the distinction that one is 'the original' is meaningless.
From the higher dimensional perspective, the physical difference is obvious, and the claim that the two clones are identical is clearly false; the original is the one that is largest in the 't' dimension.
Either point of view is fine; but you can't pick bits of your argument from one, and bits from the other, and expect to reach a useful conclusion.