If this is your position, you may also have trouble distinguishing between standing in damp socks and standing in the deep end of the pool.
why on earth would you say that, considering that it is your position (and not mine) that states any time your feet are wet, it's because you're standing in water?
Some rape is not about sex, in the way most of us understand and enjoy sex.
true, but that doesn't mean it isn't about sex in a way most of you don't understand or enjoy.
that doesn't make it not about sex.
i'm not saying that in many/most cases rape isn't also about power, or control, or whatever else - but power and control can also come from violence, and nobody says that when a man beats his wife "oh that had nothing to do with violence or hurting them, it was all about power," because that's self-evidently absurd.
If there truly were such an impulse, no social conditioning could restrain it.
patently and observably false.
as animals, we have myriad impulses to do things which we have selectively conditioned out of our behavioral responses, to the point where in many cases we will bypass instinct entirely and literally kill ourselves rather than violate that conditioning.
This discussion is not about irresistible overwhelming impulses to insure one's genetic code is transmitted to a new generation.
i don't believe anyone ever said it was.
It is more about social conditioning, specifically the social conditioning which leads some men to believe they are entitled to sex with any woman whose resistance is impaired.
i completely disagree with the entirety of your premise here - keeping in mind that we're all just animals, like any other animal, biologically speaking there is no 'entitlement' to sex anymore then there is an 'entitlement' to not-sex, everything comes down to brute force and then gets mitigated by social custom (ie: mating rituals) from there.
biologically speaking, the impetus to have sex doesn't give a shit about consent, any more than the impetus to eat food gives a shit about whether or not the bread belongs to you or if you've paid for it.
we socially condition our species to resist the biological impetus to act on those impulses regardless of the consequence, so i think that what you consider a socially conditioned sense of entitlement to sex i consider a lack of social conditioning to resist to impulse for sex regardless of consent.
The man who takes advantage of impaired resistance doesn't see himself as a rapist. After all, she never said "No," or at least not enough times. Her problem is "morning regret," or, "changed her mind."
there's also a pretty big question of what exactly constitutes 'takes advantage of', because while a sober man assaulting a drunk woman is clearly sexual assault, i question whether a man too drunk to legally give consent having sex with a woman too drunk to legally give consent is in fact a rapist, or at least is a rapist any more than the woman is also a rapist.
This man does not have the social conditioning to understand that having sex with a woman who is unable to resist and will regret having sex with him is rape and he is a rapist. It's an ugly fact, but that's the truth.
i don't disagree with this statement, though i'd bet that it's for different reasons than you.