So, hoe many times have you been told (by a random man that you've never met) to smile? Go on, give us a count.
That doesn't seem to be the case here, does it? Your actions and words in this thread bely your empty bravado.
I'm not treating you as not having agency. You've got way more here than I do. Nor do you speak for all women, regardless of how very very badly you may wish to.
What you're doing here? You're gaslighting Toni, and the other women in this thread. You're explicitly, and very clearly, telling them that what they experience, and how they experience it, is wrong. You don't express any of this even as mildly as it wouldn't offend you. You are telling
them that, regardless of their experience, they are wrong to experience things in any way that differs from how you think they should experience it.
You are most definitely not an ally to women, if this is what you really think, and how you behave. You really really need to think about this. Please, try not to reflexively get defensive and argue. Just for once, try to take ten minutes, think about what you're telling the women in this thread, and how you would feel if it were reversed.